Last week I attended a 4 day life changing seminar. I did set an intention to attend personal development seminars- at least twice in a year. This particular one was for experts and it was interestingly different. I experienced many aha moments and I would love to share the 1 thing that stood out for me, my moment of awakening, and this is it…. YOU ARE ENOUGH, yes that’s right, we are enough! The idea that we need so much outside ourselves is just lame.
I know most of us are struggling, and its ok, we just have to honour the journey and the struggle. However some of us have resulted in playing small, less expressive, more quieter and less YOU. We might have tried different things in our quest to find that passion, that one thing you are good at and in the process lost ourselves! We live in a world where if we fail at something, that’s it; we are not encouraged to try again by others and by ourselves. Our enthusiasm dies. We look at the people who are doing better than we are and instead of blessing them and learning from them; we curse them and conclude that God favoured them.
Do you know what the most disappointing bit is? When we accomplish something big or when opportunities present themselves, our subconscious mind says no because we don’t feel we deserve them. We believe that because we have failed in the past, we cannot have these beautiful opportunities that those channels are meant for others- “the most accomplished” a certain class of people. Instead of asking ourselves “what would you have me learn from this mistake, this failure, this temporal obstacle” We settle for less, and sadly we conform to this obnoxious belief. That is why we have a society that plays safe. Ask a child these days what sport they are involved in, they will tell you of only one or a maximum of 2- why? Because that’s where their talent lies, they have to focus on what they are good at, so they never get to challenge themselves by getting involved in other sports. Sadly the same belief has been adopted in the classroom. The world has no variety anymore and we feel this is ok.
We have failed to accept that this “culture” is not you. You can choose to have life happen to you or happen for you. The decision lies solely on you. We need to rise from this rubbish rules and become myth busters- start questioning everything as Steve Jobs puts it in the quote below.
“Everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you and you can change it, you can influence it, and you can build your own things that other people can use. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again- Steve jobs.
The message from the seminar was profound. You are enough! I know it sounds simple and common sense to some of us...But is common sense common practice? What is the one thing you have wanted to do for the longest time but you either got discouraged, afraid or procrastination took over. The event had over 800 people and we all seemed to struggle with different issues- personal and business. The 50 people I met all shared with me their struggles and projects that have not been executed for so long- Writing a book, finishing school programmes, becoming an entrepreneur, launching a product, teaching, starting over, walking away from toxic relationships losing weight, self love etc. You probably can relate to some of these struggles. Guess what… you are not alone. Many of us are right there with you, working hard to feel better, wanting to think more clearly, and get our lives back on track.
Here is the good news. It is doable. It has been done. Out of the 800 people that attended the event most of us left charged, alive again. We left the seminar with an 18 month action plan, a deadline for each project but most of all much happier and eager to get into the game! Do you have that one thing you want to accomplish, that one project you would love to launch, that action you would like to take because it will give you happiness, playing at full speed as opposed to playing small? Here are 2 facts that will push you to start right away…
1. If you have a passion of doing whatever it is you have wanted to do, it’s a calling. The universe saw a void in the world, gave you that idea, that mission and guess what, no one else can accomplish it apart from you. That’s a huge responsibility and you owe it to your maker to accomplish it. The moment we start, we get immediate relief. When the pressure is on you, start and start now. You will feel at ease, better and happier. Now I know there are many things in the world that can give us happiness- temporally. The happiness I am describing here comes with a lot of fulfillment, abundance and long lasting positive effects.
So go ahead and listen to that inner voice, you are enough and this is your mission here on earth and yes, no one else will do it, the gap is waiting to be filled…by you! Will you stand in the gap?
2. You are probably wondering where to start. The answers lie within you. I know it sounds cliché but it is as simple as that. Get into the game. You need to give yourself permission to start that project- it’s nothing but an inner game. You have the key to open that mission gate on your hands and you know it. Our emotions (behavior) flow from our thoughts it has been proven. We ought to tell ourselves that we can do it, feed our minds with positive thoughts and eventually our emotions follow. We are what we think. This is life’s biggest lesson, some of us peg it on science and research, I peg it on life experience. The power of focus is real and it is within us. And guess what, there is more…when you start, and put in a lot of love to it, the universe conspires and supports you to succeed. Yes He’s got your back, how amazing!
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light not our darkness that frightens us most. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world- Marianne Williamson
So give yourself permission to direct your thoughts to this one thing you want to do, your mission and just start!
So there you go the 2 proven facts that will not only give your life a deeper meaning BUT also give you so much happiness and fulfillment- The big enough WHY you are still alive today. The moment you tap into this inner power and stop waiting for approval you will start experiencing a great sense of well-being.
So here is to playing at full speed and being enough!
I have shared all this with a loving and open heart; I pray and hope you will receive it with an open mind.